22 Things I’ve Learnt In 22 Years

22 Things I’ve Learnt In 22 Years

It’s my birthday! I’m here with a 22 Things I’ve Learnt In 22 Years post. 22 years old. I remember when I thought 18 was “grown-woman-age”, oh how I was wrong. I feel like I’m reaching that point in your life where birthdays are less exciting and feel more like a day you have to celebrate just to get it over with. 
The part I’m more excited about today is spending time with the people I love rather than going out to the club (although I AM doing that, I finished my dissertation I deserve it haha). Reaching another age is important. It’s another year of learning, of maturity, of life lessons. Although I’m not as excited as I used to be as a kid, the excitement I feel is a different kind; it is for the future and the possibilities.

Reaching another year reminds you of your mortality (not in the depressing way) and the fact that you are ageing, you are getting older and you are actually inhabiting space in the world. I’m ready for the future and the lessons to be learnt but here are 22 things I learnt in 22 years. (These lessons are ones that appeal to me so you might find some useful and some useless)

  1. You can choose the people that you have in your life. You are not bound forever to people with negative energy, you can remove people from your life at anytime and add them also. 
  2. Making money isn’t everything. Doing something you love is more important. However, money can be very important in allowing you to do the things you love. Makes the right investments and sacrifices.
  3. Time is a concept and there is no such thing as being “TOO BUSY” to keep in contact with someone. You will make time for the ones you love, vice versa. 
  4. The perception and opinions of others about you is none of your busy. It does not matter whatsoever what anyone thinks of you. Respect the opinions of the right people. Your perception of self is supreme.
  5. As an introvert do not feel guilty for rationing your attention or energy towards others. Interactions can be mentally and physically tiring for you, it is okay to not be present in things. If you need alone time, take it. You are not being anti-social you are practicing self-care.
  6. How many times have we been told “just be yourself”. Honestly true authenticity is one of the first steps towards happiness in self. Be yourself, understand yourself. It is much easier than being anyone else or acting as something you are not. You don’t even have to try you just have to exist. I’m also too lazy to be anyone else, I couldn’t do them justice. 
  7. Be open to new experiences and try new things. You will meet new people, learn about what you like AND don’t like and learn about tolerance. Saying no less often can bring about unexpected situations of greatness. Be brave.
  8. There are about 6 billion people in the world. If someone does you wrong, don’t give them the chance to do it again. There’s 6 billion other people who (potentially) won’t do you wrong. Don’t waste your energy.
  9. Learn new skills wherever and whenever you can. Being able to do things or knowing how things work is very valuable. The more skilled-up you are the less disposable you are. Being an all-rounded person will take you far and is useful in improving your interpersonal skills. 
  10. Spend more money on experiences and less money on temporary materialistic things. Memories are long-lasting. 
  11. The friends and people who make effort when you when you are not necessarily reciprocating it are special. Keep them around because they love you. 
  12. Don’t worry about finding your soul-mate or your true love. They don’t exist. There are multiple people in the world who you could fall in love with. Just live your life and what is meant to happen will happen. Love will find you.
  13. Make lists and be organised. This will help to de-clutter your mind and to remove some stress of keeping all those tabs open in your head. From the people who loves to procrastinate, to-do list really help you to get your sh*t together. 
  14. Work out, look after your body inside and out. Eat healthy. An investment in your body will show its rewards in the form of a long, happy and healthy life.
  15. Don’t compare yourself to others. Everyone has started from a different point and everyone has their own unique path to follow. The ain’t always greener but sometimes it is and that’s okay. Be at peace with it.
  16. Don’t live so much in your head. Be opinionated is good, vocalising your thoughts and opinions is a way to show yourself off to the world. You are here and you are important.
  17.  Don’t be judgmental. Have an open-mind on things and people. You will be surprised. 
  18. Stand up and support other minority groups. There is a interconnectedness in oppression. Have empathy for others. “I am not free while any woman (other minority groups) is unfree, even when her shackles are very different from my own” – audre lorde 
  19. Saving is the key to success. Save now so you can spend later. A rainy day may come and you don’t want to get soaked. 
  20. Dating should be an exchange of self. Do not compromise on aspects of yourself. Your partner should learn to love you the way you are. Remain authentic at all costs. 
  21. Be self-confident. True confidence in self is the goal but if you struggle, faking it is okay. It will soon come naturally.
  22. Mental illness is not a prison sentence. You can live your life despite it. You can be happy. With perseverance you can accomplish what you set your mind, body and soul to. 

I feel like a lot of these are lessons as well as reminders. I look forward to what the next year holds and has in store for me. I’m about to finish university, about to start a new job, about to live by myself as an adult for the first time. I’m about to start the rest of my life and I’m excited. 22 let’s see what you look like, I’m ready for ya!

Is it your birthday soon? Are you a fellow Taurus? Let me know over on Twitter or in the comments x



  1. hannah
    May 5, 2017 / 9:30 am

    Happy birthday. I can definitely relate to some of those things you posted, escpeially about being self confident

  2. May 5, 2017 / 11:59 am

    Happy Birthday!!!
    I really enjoyed reading this! I agree with all the points you made, I’ve learnt a lot in the last year and these things help you to grow as a person and become happier

  3. May 5, 2017 / 12:45 pm

    Happy Birthday, what a great post and all so very true, you are forever learning as you grow older some are hard lessons and some are great lessons to learn.

  4. May 5, 2017 / 1:45 pm

    Happy Birthday! Some of these are so important, since turning 20 I’ve learnt which friends always had negative energy around them and made the decision to cut them out, although it’s hard – it ends up being better for you internally!

  5. May 5, 2017 / 2:21 pm

    Happy Birthday! You have learned so many important lessons at such a young age! For many people, these things aren’t learned until much later in life. I think one of the biggest lessons is not comparing yourself to others x
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  6. May 5, 2017 / 7:01 pm

    First of all Happy birthday girl, you have learnt many things in such a early age just keep going on…

  7. May 5, 2017 / 8:02 pm

    as a 30 year old I have to say, I wish I had been this wise at 22! I particularly liked what you said about self care and not apologising for needing it! great post! xx

  8. May 6, 2017 / 1:12 am

    Learn something new is definitely a good one. You’re never too old to try something new, explore a new place, or learn a new skill. The only time when you’re too late is when you’re dead.
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  9. Ali Rost
    May 6, 2017 / 5:30 am

    Happy Birthday! You’re very wise for 22 .. when I was your age I don’t think I’d learned many of these yet. The biggest thing I learned in my 20s was you can’t be everything to everybody (and that’s ok)

  10. VeggiesByCandlelight
    May 6, 2017 / 6:04 am

    I wish for you the happiest of birthdays! If I could tell my 22 year old self anything .. it would be not to fear growing older. For me every year is truly better than the one before.

  11. May 6, 2017 / 12:58 pm

    I’ve always wanted to make a list like this! can’t wait til my birthday. I loved this advices and I’m working to get the negative people out of my life!

  12. Dannii
    May 6, 2017 / 1:59 pm

    Learning that I could remove negative people from my life was one of the best things I ever did. I am so much happier for it.

  13. Elizabeth O.
    May 6, 2017 / 4:14 pm

    Very beautiful lessons that also came from the heart. You’re very young but you’re learned so many valuable lessons that you can use throughout your life.

  14. Love You Wedding
    May 6, 2017 / 6:31 pm

    Wishing you the happiest of birthdays! I vividly remember when I turned 22! It felt like I was at the prime of my life! I am happy that at your age, you have learned a lot. May you continue to grow to a responsible, loving adult and continue to inspire others. Lastly, never stop learning! It is a good habit to have. Stay as curious as a child. 🙂

  15. May 6, 2017 / 8:27 pm

    Happy birthday dear. You learnt very important lessons f life in such a short time. Best of luck for future.

  16. May 7, 2017 / 5:52 pm

    Happy birthday! You’ve certainly learned a lot over the years, I’m struggling with the not comparing myself to anyone thing and I’m 30! x

  17. Laura H
    May 7, 2017 / 6:31 pm

    Number one is only something I have learned recently and damn I wish I had been more ruthless with culling negative friends out of my life sooner!

  18. Rebecca Smith
    May 7, 2017 / 7:31 pm

    These are very wise life lessons, you’ve definitely learned a lot over the years x

  19. May 7, 2017 / 8:29 pm

    Happy Birthday! You’ve learnt so much but you know it will continue and I look forward to reading your future posts 🙂 x

  20. May 7, 2017 / 9:30 pm

    Be self-confident. <<< So true, sista. It's such a difficult one to learn when you're not brought up to be self-confident, but it's such an important skill.

  21. May 7, 2017 / 9:43 pm

    Yes, yes and yes to all of these! I hope you had a wonderful birthday!

  22. May 8, 2017 / 7:12 am

    What a fantastic list! So many things I agree with on here! Oh and happy birthday x

  23. May 8, 2017 / 11:34 am

    These are some great learnings of life for sure and should be followed by everyone. Agree to all the points. 🙂

  24. francesca
    May 8, 2017 / 12:01 pm

    This is a great list of what you’ve learnt in 22 years!! You sure have learned a lot so far!! Number one actually spoke to me the most omg!

  25. Angela Milnes
    May 8, 2017 / 12:26 pm

    Happy birthday! This is a great post and I enjoy reading this so much. Glad you share this

  26. May 8, 2017 / 12:33 pm

    Happy birthday, girl! You learned so many important things till 22 🙂 Great post!

  27. May 8, 2017 / 1:36 pm

    Happy Birthday! You’ve got your head on right for a woman of only 22. It takes many people many more years to learn some of the things you shared. May you get even wiser as the years pass! x

  28. May 8, 2017 / 2:25 pm

    Happy bday! I love all of your 22 lessons you’ve learned throughout your life… sounds like you’re a well-rounded person who has a good head on her shoulders and knows the value of life. Great post!
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  29. May 9, 2017 / 11:43 am

    I hope you have had a good birthday! I remember being 22 and you seem to be more headstrong than I ever was!

  30. May 9, 2017 / 2:07 pm

    I remember those days when I’d think the graduating students looked so grown-up and old at 18. Hahaha… how perspective changes, doesn’t it ;))

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