It’s my birthday! I’m here with a 22 Things I’ve Learnt In 22 Years post. 22 years old. I remember when I thought 18 was “grown-woman-age”, oh how I was wrong. I feel like I’m reaching that point in your life where birthdays are less exciting and feel more like a day you have to celebrate just to get it over with.
The part I’m more excited about today is spending time with the people I love rather than going out to the club (although I AM doing that, I finished my dissertation I deserve it haha). Reaching another age is important. It’s another year of learning, of maturity, of life lessons. Although I’m not as excited as I used to be as a kid, the excitement I feel is a different kind; it is for the future and the possibilities.
Reaching another year reminds you of your mortality (not in the depressing way) and the fact that you are ageing, you are getting older and you are actually inhabiting space in the world. I’m ready for the future and the lessons to be learnt but here are 22 things I learnt in 22 years. (These lessons are ones that appeal to me so you might find some useful and some useless)
- You can choose the people that you have in your life. You are not bound forever to people with negative energy, you can remove people from your life at anytime and add them also.
- Making money isn’t everything. Doing something you love is more important. However, money can be very important in allowing you to do the things you love. Makes the right investments and sacrifices.
- Time is a concept and there is no such thing as being “TOO BUSY” to keep in contact with someone. You will make time for the ones you love, vice versa.
- The perception and opinions of others about you is none of your busy. It does not matter whatsoever what anyone thinks of you. Respect the opinions of the right people. Your perception of self is supreme.
- As an introvert do not feel guilty for rationing your attention or energy towards others. Interactions can be mentally and physically tiring for you, it is okay to not be present in things. If you need alone time, take it. You are not being anti-social you are practicing self-care.
- How many times have we been told “just be yourself”. Honestly true authenticity is one of the first steps towards happiness in self. Be yourself, understand yourself. It is much easier than being anyone else or acting as something you are not. You don’t even have to try you just have to exist. I’m also too lazy to be anyone else, I couldn’t do them justice.
- Be open to new experiences and try new things. You will meet new people, learn about what you like AND don’t like and learn about tolerance. Saying no less often can bring about unexpected situations of greatness. Be brave.
- There are about 6 billion people in the world. If someone does you wrong, don’t give them the chance to do it again. There’s 6 billion other people who (potentially) won’t do you wrong. Don’t waste your energy.
- Learn new skills wherever and whenever you can. Being able to do things or knowing how things work is very valuable. The more skilled-up you are the less disposable you are. Being an all-rounded person will take you far and is useful in improving your interpersonal skills.
- Spend more money on experiences and less money on temporary materialistic things. Memories are long-lasting.
- The friends and people who make effort when you when you are not necessarily reciprocating it are special. Keep them around because they love you.
- Don’t worry about finding your soul-mate or your true love. They don’t exist. There are multiple people in the world who you could fall in love with. Just live your life and what is meant to happen will happen. Love will find you.
- Make lists and be organised. This will help to de-clutter your mind and to remove some stress of keeping all those tabs open in your head. From the people who loves to procrastinate, to-do list really help you to get your sh*t together.
- Work out, look after your body inside and out. Eat healthy. An investment in your body will show its rewards in the form of a long, happy and healthy life.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Everyone has started from a different point and everyone has their own unique path to follow. The ain’t always greener but sometimes it is and that’s okay. Be at peace with it.
- Don’t live so much in your head. Be opinionated is good, vocalising your thoughts and opinions is a way to show yourself off to the world. You are here and you are important.
- Don’t be judgmental. Have an open-mind on things and people. You will be surprised.
- Stand up and support other minority groups. There is a interconnectedness in oppression. Have empathy for others. “I am not free while any woman (other minority groups) is unfree, even when her shackles are very different from my own” – audre lorde
- Saving is the key to success. Save now so you can spend later. A rainy day may come and you don’t want to get soaked.
- Dating should be an exchange of self. Do not compromise on aspects of yourself. Your partner should learn to love you the way you are. Remain authentic at all costs.
- Be self-confident. True confidence in self is the goal but if you struggle, faking it is okay. It will soon come naturally.
- Mental illness is not a prison sentence. You can live your life despite it. You can be happy. With perseverance you can accomplish what you set your mind, body and soul to.
I feel like a lot of these are lessons as well as reminders. I look forward to what the next year holds and has in store for me. I’m about to finish university, about to start a new job, about to live by myself as an adult for the first time. I’m about to start the rest of my life and I’m excited. 22 let’s see what you look like, I’m ready for ya!
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